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To choose the topic, the Rector Major met with the Superiors of the Salesian Family in Turin on the occasion of the Celebration of Mary Help of Christians. The choice of the theme of “accompaniment” was the result of that dialogue. “The synthetic phrase of the Strenna,” writes Fr. Artime, “corresponds to the heartfelt request that the Samaritan woman makes to Jesus at Jacob’s well. In her meeting with Him, the woman feels that she has been listened to, respected and appreciated; and so, in her heart she feels impelled to ask for something even more precious: ‘Sir, give me some of this water…the water of life to the full that you are offering me.’”
Following the central theme of this gospel passage, and in the context of the forthcoming Synod of Bishops («Young People, the Faith and Vocational Discernment »), Fr Artime intends to explore “the importance for all our Salesian Family and for its mission in the world of cultivating the precious art of listening and of accompaniment, with conditions that need to be ensured for the demands and the service involved in both listening and accompanying, in the process of personal, Christian and vocational development.”
The full text of the Rector Major’s presentation is attached with this Circular and is also available on sdb.org website. Here I only wish to ponder on some of the salient features that come with The Art of Listening and Accompaniment.
The Art of Listening
The Rector Major says that the starting point for our reflection must be the calm and meditative reading of the gospel passage that we know as “the meeting of Jesus with the Samaritan woman” (Jn 4, 3-42); a meeting that then becomes the icon to refer to in order to see how the Lord relates to her, the sort of relationship He establishes, its results, and the consequences that the meeting with Him has in this woman’s life.
• Then the Lord came and stood and called as at other times, "Samuel! Samuel!" And Samuel said, "Speak Lord, for Your servant is listening." (1Sam 3:10).
• Israel, if only you would listen to Me! (Psalm 81:8)
• While he was still speaking, a bright cloud overshadowed them, and behold, a voice out of the cloud said, "This is My Beloved Son, with whom I am well-pleased; listen to Him!" (Matthew 17:5)
• Paul stood up, and motioning with his hand said, "Men of Israel, and you who fear God, listen! (Acts 13:16)
• My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. (James 1:19)
In all Biblical encounters and exhortations, we see a personal touch. Young people too need this personal touch. They yearn to belong and to relate to people who care about them and value them as individuals. To build this relationship, we need to learn names, know their families, to inspire, motivate and engage them. We need a differentiated approach that begins with the variety of young people in mind. We need to engage families and see parents as part of our pastoral ministry. We need to listen to and support them as they continue to foster the faith life of emerging adults. Parents need to be inspired and equipped to take the lead in the spiritual formation of their children. We need to help families make this transition. For families that are struggling with faith and an active participation in the parish or institution, our work with the young can be a spark that lights up the whole community.
We need to go where the youth and young adults are, including and especially today, even online! The roots of youth ministry are to go to the corners where youth hang out. To do this today, we should be proficient in social media, and use technology as a means to draw them towards a more offline presence and participation with the Salesian community and mission.
The Art of Accompaniment
In his Apostolic Exhortation Evangelii Gaudium, Pope Francis adds several phrases to the growing vocabulary and vision of the New Evangelization—a vision to which each pope has contributed since the Second Vatican Council. One of these phrases is “the art of accompaniment”:
Far from the image of a doctor who merely affirms, compliments, or, even worse, spiritually euthanizes a wounded soul, the art of accompaniment points to a kind of bedside manner that is important, and not always obvious to everyone. Pope Francis describes the bedside manner needed in the art of accompaniment as “steady and reassuring, reflecting our closeness,” and as having a “compassionate gaze” (EG, 169). Every art requires practice, and even mistakes along the way, to learn. It involves a “constellation of virtues,” including charity, humility, affability, courage, patience, and hope. This is very true also in the art of accompaniment!
As we have already seen above Jesus DOES manifest accompaniment. In fact, the whole incarnation manifests accompaniment as does his “table-fellowship” in “eating and drinking with sinners.” But Jesus does not merely eat with sinners or become incarnate. He does that in order to lead, to proclaim, to teach, to govern, to sanctify, to summon to repentance, to bestow mercy to the penitent. An example, almost in picture form, of what Jesus does is in the story of the disciples on the road to Emmaus. As the story opens, two disciples are walking in the wrong direction (away from Jerusalem). The text says: While they were talking, and discussing together, Jesus himself drew near and went with them … And he said to them, “What is this conversation which you are holding with each other as you walk?” (Lk 24:16-17). So, he does accompany them! However, no sooner do they explain their sorrow and reveal their erroneous thinking, that Jesus admonishes them (LK 24:26-27). Hence, in this walk of accompaniment, Jesus sees these men are in error and He tells them so. It is their error that is the cause not only of their sorrow, but also of their “traveling wrong.” But note that he is not there just to walk alongside! What started as a mere accompaniment, led to listening and finally to leading, guiding and teaching! This brings about a definitive change in the lives of these two disciples. He literally turns them around! This is what you and I are called to do with the young who are entrusted to our care! We should be able to make a change in their lives, with prayerful, prudent and patient accompaniment.
CONCLUSION: The Art of Listening AND Accompaniment
To conclude, the Strenna for 2018 invites us to a deeper reflection on the role of listening and accompaniment in our own lives and with those with whom we journey. Fr. Angel Artime encourages us to reflect on the scripture passage where Jesus encounters a Samaritan woman by a well. In this exchange, he listens, perseveres and transforms her life. In their context, this was a meeting that would not normally occur. Firstly, Jesus is talking to a Samaritan – with whom a Jew of that era would share nothing; secondly, Jesus was speaking to a woman, and privately too; and lastly that Jesus was speaking familiarly in a public setting, something a religious figure did not do. In short, here is a transformative encounter that should not and would not have occurred if the barriers of the established societies were upheld. But Jesus came to turn the world upside down!
Returning to the Strenna: Let us cultivate the art of listening and of accompaniment. We are encouraged to make particular efforts to journey with young people in the way Jesus journeys with us and the Samaritan woman. This requires that initial encounter. Like Jesus, this encounter begins by listening to the other person and their lived experience. A genuine listening; more than simply hearing the other. From this arises the opportunity for human relationships which offer a transformative power in our own and in their lives. Within this transformative relationship, the role of accompaniment is paramount. Our accompaniment does not end after the first setback and reaches out to those we might avoid by abiding by social norms. We are called to reach out to the margins. To listen to, and not merely hear, the experiences of those we encounter, and to accompany them. This accompaniment is not exclusive to a one-on-one encounter, rather it relates to our communities, our beneficiaries and to all those who need an open ear and a loving heart. We are called to be present amongst the young; to listen to them, not merely to hear; and to accompany them in a genuine human relationship. Like Jesus in his encounter with the Samaritan woman in John 4:3-42, we are called to go beyond the boundaries and barriers which divide us, to encounter the young, wherever and whoever they be, and to show them the same perseverance, listening with our ears and mind and accompanying them with our heart and love. So, as we begin to look to 2018, let us cultivate this art of listening and accompaniment for the benefit of the many young people whose lives influence us and on whom we are called to make a profound impact in return.